If you are anything like me, you have asked yourself this question a million and one times. Well the reason we keep asking ourselves this question is because deep down we do not feel worth it at all. We do not feel valued or needed. To be quite honest, most of the time we woman feel like we do not measure up to much or that we do not have much to give. We may have big dreams but feel we are inadequate to chase them. Deep down we want to make a difference, but our head keeps telling us it will not really change anything. Sometimes we muster up enough courage to display our true inner beauty only to be rejected by the ones we hoped would embrace it. So we burry ourselves back into our shell and hope for a sunnier day tomorrow. But how is the world going to change if what they really need is you (us)?
You my dear are the answer to the equation, the missing puzzle piece. You complete the picture. The world will never change if you do not change where you get your value. To put it more strongly, the world will never change if you are letting it define you. The world may tell you who you should be but that is not who you really are. Your friends and family may tell you you are amazing and that you can change the world but you may not always believe that when they do not fall through in their promises. Your value does not come from people. No matter how close you keep them to your heart. They cannot hold that much power. The only one who can tell you who you are and who you are meant to be is your creator. Do not let the world tell you who you are, or you will never be able to change it. The reason we try so hard to prove ourselves to the world is because it has given us a bad rep since the beginning of time. Who was the one who ate the apple first? Eve. Who has been told to keep quiet ever since? Women. In almost every culture, women are oppressed and made to keep quiet. Frowned upon as if they are sole reason for the world’s problems. Now I could go through the Bible and point out the scriptures where it talks about how women should be quiet or should not do this or that and point out what was really going on. However that would take much more than this post. I will say one thing, whom did God choose to bring His son into the world? That’s right a woman! God choose women to bring redemption in to the world. God has approved of woman and has given us purpose. So for the sake of your time and heart let me finish with telling you that YOU ARE WORTH IT!
You were created for greatness. More than that. You were born for it. You are a daughter of the one true King and he loves you with an everlasting love. You do not need to wait for his approval, you have been approved. Otherwise he would not have made you. Your dreams are possible and who you are is still very much alive. It’s time to be bold and scandalous. It’s time to be you!!
We got this ladies! The world is waiting for us. We can do it!
“I wish my gut wasn’t so big!” Why can’t my hair cooperate?” “I hate my skin.” “I’m always breaking out!” “I’m just not good enough!” “I’ll never be able to do it…..”
If you are like any other human being in the world, you have probably said one if not all or more of those expressions. These expressions I like to call thoughts. They have the power to haunt and plague us if we give them enough power. Thoughts can be quite the enemy, or sucker of life, if we allow them to be. Once we have this thought and we start to believe it, well you now have officially submitted yourself to its death. Well maybe death is a hard word but think about it for a minute. Your day is going normal when all of the sudden you see your wonderful co-worker Karen and she has it all together. She is looking ‘on fleek’ with her shoes and designner tote to match. Clearly this woman has it together, and what was your morning like… Uh terrible. It all started with clothes that didn’t get washed, children that wouldn’t get out of bed, perhaps a toddler going through a stage, and to top it off there is no more milk. Life is a mess and its only 7AM in the morning. You drop the kids off at school… oh some peace…but wait you forgot to finish putting your make-up on and only one eye has eyeliner and no mascara. Oh my! You finally get to work then someone spins around right into you, there went your coffee and your blouse. Needless to say you wish you could restart your morning, but you just dismiss that wish like you do every morning because well its life, until she appears. Oh yes! The mother with everything together. All of the sudden your cubicle is filled with smoke and you want her to pay for being ‘so put together.’ Like a tidal wave thoughts come rolling in like the next big hit song that doesn’t stop playing. The tune may be catchy but boy is it deadly. After a while, you feel depressed and that nothing or no one can help you out of this mess, besides the Super Nanny. So what do you do? Do you allow those thoughts and situations to stir up those emotions to determine who you are?
Well let me show you where our fine mother went wrong. There is nothing wrong with her morning or children, even though she may think otherwise. We have all been there! Each of us have had our fair share of crazy unlucky mornings filled with mess. So if it wasn’t the horror filled morning, what was it? Glad you asked, right when she saw Karen what did she do? She started to compare. Then from there she believed those thoughts from comparison and decided to allow her day or life to be ruined by one moment of judgment. Well my friends, comparison kills! It will leave you dead and dormant to who you really are. It is time to stop judging our day to day crap with someone else’s glory moment, or as others have put it – highlight reel. You cannot judge your crapy day with their good one. Plus you have no reason to compare in the first place, your life is so distinctly different than everyone else’s. You are unique. There is no one else like you on the planet, unless you are a twin than I guess we’ll let you complain… Nope! You are different! You think, talk, and engage with people different. There is no one like you! You are the only one who can do you! So its time to stop comparing and start living! Be who you are, because its who you are that will shake and change this world. Stop complaining, stop comparing, and start being you!
More to come on the power of thoughts!
#wakeupcall #Itstime #beyou #youcandothis #yougotthis #stopcomparing #comparisonkills
“Finding the Treasure within You”
At first it can seem quite a task to dig up and look beneath the facade you have created, to see the beauty within. It requires two important things. The first vulnerability and the second, honesty. You cannot have one without the other. Both take an amount of courage and strength. However, these are not beyond your limits. In fact it is within your reach.
When you start diving deep into yourself, you may encounter some rather ugly, smelly, unrecognizable stuff. However after looking closer you may realize the nasty thing may have been something terrible you have been speaking over yourself for years. Like, “I cannot do that, I do not have it in me!” Or this bad one, “I am not thin or pretty enough!” When you say things that are not true over yourself, they do develop quite a smell and can change the way you see yourself and life around you. Instead of filling yourself with smelly stuff it is time to fill yourself with colorful, bright, and beautiful scents of His truth. This means speaking the truth over yourself again and again until you start to believe it yourself. It is time to call out the gold within yourself. You can see it in other people. Well, now it is time to find it within yourself which can be the hardest and best battle you will ever fight. Because once you see who you truly are and believe it with everything in you, nothing is impossible for you! Come let us go deeper. I encourage you to dig deep this week and find out what smelly thing has been keeping away the true you. Find it out and kick it out with the truth. It is time to change that dumpster into a treasure chest full of beauties!
#youcandothis #everythingispossible #nothingistoohard #yougotthis #letsdothis #crushedIt #findingthebeautywithin
Everyday we are flooded with emotions. Some make us feel gross and disgusted, others make us feel sad, lonely, and depressed, others make us furious while make us happy, joyful, and content. Sometimes we just go through life feeling every emotion and riding the rollercoaster of our lives. However, at the end of the day we have a choice to choose to feel what we feel. Some of us go through life allowing our emotions to control us and our thoughts and decisions. Let me encourage you and say, “Get off the roller coaster!”
If you are anything like me, you love an occasional rush that roller coasters give you. The ups and downs, the loops, corkscrews, and sharp turns give us the crazy illusion that we are flying and out of control. However, we are securely strapped in and even before we get in line for this crazy ride we are fronted with a choice. Before you even get to the front of the line, you can see the course outlined in front of you with all of its wild intentions. You can hear the screaming of terror and excitement rush overhead as you cross underneath the track. As you stand their looking at the next crazy ride, you have a choice to decide to get in line and then at the front – to board it. This is the same with our emotions. We have a choice at the beginning of the day to allow our emotions to control us or not. Sometimes life is crazy and you cannot help but get on the crazy ride but in the end, or the start of the day I should say, you have a choice to allow yourself to get on that ride or not. Do not get me wrong, emotions are very important and should not be thrown away deep into ourselves. They are valuable to experiencing life and ministering to others around us, but do not become a victim to their power. Emotions are meant to aid us and encourage us, not bring us flying through life feeling like your falling. So yes, you can say no to those bad emotions and choose to be happy. Your circumstance may outline a crazy course but you have a choice to get on that ride or not. Instead choose joy! Choose every day to be happy and to spread that joy to everyone you meet. We all love those times we run into someone whether at the store or a restaurant that is happy and makes your day smile. Well, I am sure they faced the exact same decision you have. Their life is probably not always glowing but they decided to not let their circumstances choose their fate, rather they choose for themselves what they wanted.
It is time for you to choose, you can hear the load rush overhead, will you decide to allow joy to fill you to overflow or will you get on the ride??
#choosejoy #emotionsdon’tcontrolyou #yougotthis
With the season of love staring at us in the face, I cannot help but talk about it. Love is a beautiful thing. It can make us feel all gooey inside. Sometimes it makes us feel like we are on top of the world and invincible, while other times it can make us look deep in ourselves and help us through some tough times. Love is a strange thing. Some call it an emotion. Most of us use it as a greeting. Others use it as a deciding factor for big decisions. Love comes and goes and we never still seem to understand it. We enter into relationships because we are swept away by love, but then the moment love is gone the relationship is over. If you were to ask those in a long relationship, maybe 30+ years, “what is love?” I am sure they would tell you something like, “It is the small things. Choosing to be there even when I did not want to….” In other words, it is not easy or fleeting, rather it is commitment. Love is a CHOICE! You have to choose to love somebody. You must choose to love someone every day.People that are hurt or angry never act out of who they are. You decide in each moment to extend love to every person in your life. Whether it is your family or even your coworkers. Of course people do things we do not like, or that hurt us, but let me share some truth on that. People that are hurt or angry never act out of who they are. They are reacting instead of acting. We have all been there, said things we regret or said something out of anger because we are reacting to a situation. Basically, we have allowed the situations around us to determine how we act instead of rising above the situation and take our behavior into our own hands. So it is time to choose connection, not disagreement. Does it get hard at times? Absolutely! Love is a commitment, a constant decision, a vow if you will. The only way to shift our environment around us is to love it. When someone is hurting, he or she needs love. Our environment around us is hurting, so we cannot afford to do anything else but love. Let us love together and make the world a better place. Decide today to love on your family, friends, and community.
I pray this season of love reminds you how powerful you are and that you hold the key to change you and your environment. The key of Love!
#chooselove #youcandoit #changetheworldthroughlove
A lot of events have happened lately. In your personal world and the world around you. Sometimes it feels toxic. While suffocating all energy and hope from who you are, several ideas and creative expressions of detoxing your life present themselves. Some of them are colorful, others painful, and yet others still being invented. While all of those may sound good, does it last or do you have to try it again later? Let me be courageous in saying Ditch the DETOX! Instead of finding intensive quick ways of cleaning out your life, how about a lifestyle of hope and joy where you never need a detox but maybe just a quick pick me up and reminder. That’s not to say that I don’t occasionally get lost in the toxic world and need brought back to the reality of who I am and the power that I carry. Instead of looking for the next quick fix, live a life full of purpose and hope. I can already hear the questions swirling around in your head. “So how do I live a life full of purpose when everything around me is hopeless and falling apart?” “There is no hope!” “What are you talking about?” “Can I really believe that I am powerful?” “How can I live a purposeful life?” and so on….
This realization for me started when I realized that I was hopeless about my life and current situation. I was trying to feel hope again and get myself to realize who I really was. But try after try, they were only quick fixes. Nothing worked until the Lord intervened through community, reminding me who I was and what I brought to my world around me. In a moment the Lord removed all doubt and hopelessness and I began to see my purpose again. I felt great for a few days then those haunting thoughts of doubt and depression tried to return, but I was quick to recognize them and decided in that moment that they would not ruin what the Lord did for me, nor would they control me again. Later, some hopelessness started creeping in again. I did not think much of it but pushed it away, until something I just happened to read jolted my thought process with a swift download of fresh revelation. Doubt starts with what you put in. So what are you listening to? What are you watching and/or reading? Is it full of hope or degrading with every word? We have all heard the saying, “what you put in comes out.” Well it is true. But it goes much deeper than we realize or give it credit for. So its time to stop listening to the depressing voices around you, whether through the media, news, movies, books, etc. Maybe its a friend who does nothing but tear you down. Well it is time to ditch them. Did she just say that? Yes I did!
Love produces freedom and freedom produces a sense of hope and purpose We must be careful what we allow to speak into our lives. The only way to rebuild hope is to put love in! Love produces freedom and freedom produces a sense of hope and purpose. If you want a life full of purpose and overfilling with hope, stop what your tuning into and put the opposite in. This may mean a complete lifestyle change. However, one I think you will be happy with in the end. Its time to tune into the things that make you smile! Tune into love! Tune into GOD! He will never let you down! Some of you maybe thinking, “he does’t have anything good for me, you have no idea what I’ve done.” Well I got news for you, while he was dying on the cross, the man crucified next to him, who was being punished for murder, first mocked him then realized he wanted in on the love. So that night he went and spent paradise in heaven. So Love can be yours! It is just time to tune in. Go ahead! You can do it! I have faith in you! It is time to ditch the detox and tune into love! Lets get rid of doubt and stomp on hopelessness!
#weareinthistogether #yougotthis #tuneintolove
“God looks not at the outer appearance but at the heart.”
1 Sam 16:7
A face? What is a face? A unique way of expression… A way of holding mystery… a means to communicate… to put up a front…
Like you, I have my masters in putting on a face. I learned it from my parents. At a young age, my family would head to church and act like everything was fine when we just had a heated argument. Needless to say learning how to look and play the part became way too easy. After some time, I became an expert on shoving my feelings into the deep abyss of me. It got to the point where feelings became nothing but just hot air, and the numbness of life around me seemed like a dark place of comfort instead of a world of despair and pain, but deep down it was a world built upon layers of Gold and beauty just waiting to be discovered and known.
The reason I start at the beginning or at the source is because confidence comes within you. It is something that for many is birthed out of seasons of pain, trial, and inner healing. To have confidence takes confidence. It is a connection between you, your soul, and your spirit. In order to develop confidence you have to be brave enough to go deep and discover who you really are. This means taking off and dealing with each layer of filth, mildew, and scum that has covered the inner you. For several, this is a painful experience, but I will reassure you that it is well worth it. You will be so happy you did it! Everyone knows dumpster diving is not joyful but once you begin and start finding the pieces of gold, pieces of you, you start to develop a passion for treasure hunting. Then all of a sudden you find a jewel, a precious ruby that you never knew existed within you. Sooner or later you realize that you were never a dumpster to begin with but a strong treasure chest full of shining beauties and untold stories. Let me encourage you in saying never give up, keep going deeper, you will find something beyond beauty, heavenly perfection. For when God made us he said we were perfect. You are perfect; made beautiful in his image! To insult yourself is to insult the creator (but we will not get started on that topic). You are full of beauty, and it is time to unlock the heaven within you! It’s time to become confident!
#wearconfidence #Itlooksgoodonyou #neverlookedbetter