If you are anything like me, you have asked yourself this question a million and one times. Well the reason we keep asking ourselves this question is because deep down we do not feel worth it at all. We do not feel valued or needed. To be quite honest, most of the time we woman feel like we do not measure up to much or that we do not have much to give. We may have big dreams but feel we are inadequate to chase them. Deep down we want to make a difference, but our head keeps telling us it will not really change anything. Sometimes we muster up enough courage to display our true inner beauty only to be rejected by the ones we hoped would embrace it. So we burry ourselves back into our shell and hope for a sunnier day tomorrow. But how is the world going to change if what they really need is you (us)?
You my dear are the answer to the equation, the missing puzzle piece. You complete the picture. The world will never change if you do not change where you get your value. To put it more strongly, the world will never change if you are letting it define you. The world may tell you who you should be but that is not who you really are. Your friends and family may tell you you are amazing and that you can change the world but you may not always believe that when they do not fall through in their promises. Your value does not come from people. No matter how close you keep them to your heart. They cannot hold that much power. The only one who can tell you who you are and who you are meant to be is your creator. Do not let the world tell you who you are, or you will never be able to change it. The reason we try so hard to prove ourselves to the world is because it has given us a bad rep since the beginning of time. Who was the one who ate the apple first? Eve. Who has been told to keep quiet ever since? Women. In almost every culture, women are oppressed and made to keep quiet. Frowned upon as if they are sole reason for the world’s problems. Now I could go through the Bible and point out the scriptures where it talks about how women should be quiet or should not do this or that and point out what was really going on. However that would take much more than this post. I will say one thing, whom did God choose to bring His son into the world? That’s right a woman! God choose women to bring redemption in to the world. God has approved of woman and has given us purpose. So for the sake of your time and heart let me finish with telling you that YOU ARE WORTH IT!
You were created for greatness. More than that. You were born for it. You are a daughter of the one true King and he loves you with an everlasting love. You do not need to wait for his approval, you have been approved. Otherwise he would not have made you. Your dreams are possible and who you are is still very much alive. It’s time to be bold and scandalous. It’s time to be you!!
We got this ladies! The world is waiting for us. We can do it!
This killer is a celebrated work, something we do everyday. However it kills us on the inside. It takes people by the millions. Several lose their lives and forget who they are. Some even become prideful and trade their joy filled lives for a different bitter one. Almost every human on the planet suffers from this ailment. This epidemic must be stopped! This epidemic is COMPARISON!
….. Just ponder that for second. You know that is true! Even today you wished your life was different in some fashion. Have we as a church, completely forgotten who we are that we must try to be someone else. Are we really that bad? Yes, we may wish our situations were different, but did we forget that once we change our perspectives that the way we look at our circumstances change? Have we really tossed every good principle about taking every thought captive out the door? Did we really just trade our joy, which is our strength, for pride or depression? What are we doing? This is not who we were made to be. God calls us princes and princess. He trusts us! He even has removed our shame, yet we still walk around with our heads down and wear it as a grown of glory for the world to see. Have we really forgotten what Jesus Christ has done for us? Or are we that prideful in our shame that we invite all new believers to join us in the mud pit that they just walked out of!? WHAT ARE WE DOING?
It is time to WAKE UP! It is time to remember who(se) we are and to rise up. It is time to leave the pit of shame and walk in righteousness. It is time for the Bride of Christ to realize who she is and to walk in the authority Christ has Comparison is refusing to look at Christ as your mirror but someone or something else. given her. It is time for her to take her place and win back this world for her love, Jesus Christ. Can you imagine, if we, as the bride of Christ, realized how powerful we were and acted like it, the whole world would have been saved already, and Christ would have already come back for His Bride!
It is time for the Bride to rise up and to leave the comparison game behind. This game has gotten us no where, but has left us confused and far away from what Christ has for us. Comparison is refusing to look at Christ as your mirror but someone or something else. In a way, comparison is the modern day idol. Celebrated by the world and the church. All comparison is is a ploy to get us distracted from who(se) we are so that we never walk into our destiny. NOT ANYMORE! I have decided to put a stop to this epidemic and have pulled off this dark veil and exposed comparison for what it is.
Now it is up to you. Will you choose to walk away from this game and live the life you’ve always wanted? Will we as the church decide today to be who really are, the beautiful, powerful Bride of Christ? I am ready, are you?
“I wish my gut wasn’t so big!” Why can’t my hair cooperate?” “I hate my skin.” “I’m always breaking out!” “I’m just not good enough!” “I’ll never be able to do it…..”
If you are like any other human being in the world, you have probably said one if not all or more of those expressions. These expressions I like to call thoughts. They have the power to haunt and plague us if we give them enough power. Thoughts can be quite the enemy, or sucker of life, if we allow them to be. Once we have this thought and we start to believe it, well you now have officially submitted yourself to its death. Well maybe death is a hard word but think about it for a minute. Your day is going normal when all of the sudden you see your wonderful co-worker Karen and she has it all together. She is looking ‘on fleek’ with her shoes and designner tote to match. Clearly this woman has it together, and what was your morning like… Uh terrible. It all started with clothes that didn’t get washed, children that wouldn’t get out of bed, perhaps a toddler going through a stage, and to top it off there is no more milk. Life is a mess and its only 7AM in the morning. You drop the kids off at school… oh some peace…but wait you forgot to finish putting your make-up on and only one eye has eyeliner and no mascara. Oh my! You finally get to work then someone spins around right into you, there went your coffee and your blouse. Needless to say you wish you could restart your morning, but you just dismiss that wish like you do every morning because well its life, until she appears. Oh yes! The mother with everything together. All of the sudden your cubicle is filled with smoke and you want her to pay for being ‘so put together.’ Like a tidal wave thoughts come rolling in like the next big hit song that doesn’t stop playing. The tune may be catchy but boy is it deadly. After a while, you feel depressed and that nothing or no one can help you out of this mess, besides the Super Nanny. So what do you do? Do you allow those thoughts and situations to stir up those emotions to determine who you are?
Well let me show you where our fine mother went wrong. There is nothing wrong with her morning or children, even though she may think otherwise. We have all been there! Each of us have had our fair share of crazy unlucky mornings filled with mess. So if it wasn’t the horror filled morning, what was it? Glad you asked, right when she saw Karen what did she do? She started to compare. Then from there she believed those thoughts from comparison and decided to allow her day or life to be ruined by one moment of judgment. Well my friends, comparison kills! It will leave you dead and dormant to who you really are. It is time to stop judging our day to day crap with someone else’s glory moment, or as others have put it – highlight reel. You cannot judge your crapy day with their good one. Plus you have no reason to compare in the first place, your life is so distinctly different than everyone else’s. You are unique. There is no one else like you on the planet, unless you are a twin than I guess we’ll let you complain… Nope! You are different! You think, talk, and engage with people different. There is no one like you! You are the only one who can do you! So its time to stop comparing and start living! Be who you are, because its who you are that will shake and change this world. Stop complaining, stop comparing, and start being you!
More to come on the power of thoughts!
#wakeupcall #Itstime #beyou #youcandothis #yougotthis #stopcomparing #comparisonkills
“Finding the Treasure within You”
At first it can seem quite a task to dig up and look beneath the facade you have created, to see the beauty within. It requires two important things. The first vulnerability and the second, honesty. You cannot have one without the other. Both take an amount of courage and strength. However, these are not beyond your limits. In fact it is within your reach.
When you start diving deep into yourself, you may encounter some rather ugly, smelly, unrecognizable stuff. However after looking closer you may realize the nasty thing may have been something terrible you have been speaking over yourself for years. Like, “I cannot do that, I do not have it in me!” Or this bad one, “I am not thin or pretty enough!” When you say things that are not true over yourself, they do develop quite a smell and can change the way you see yourself and life around you. Instead of filling yourself with smelly stuff it is time to fill yourself with colorful, bright, and beautiful scents of His truth. This means speaking the truth over yourself again and again until you start to believe it yourself. It is time to call out the gold within yourself. You can see it in other people. Well, now it is time to find it within yourself which can be the hardest and best battle you will ever fight. Because once you see who you truly are and believe it with everything in you, nothing is impossible for you! Come let us go deeper. I encourage you to dig deep this week and find out what smelly thing has been keeping away the true you. Find it out and kick it out with the truth. It is time to change that dumpster into a treasure chest full of beauties!
#youcandothis #everythingispossible #nothingistoohard #yougotthis #letsdothis #crushedIt #findingthebeautywithin
Every day we are presented with situations beyond our control. It is our job to respond with wisdom and integrity, but let’s be real, does that always happen? Uh… no! Sadly, we allow the situations around us to get the better of us. As put in real langue, we allow our situation to control us. Some situations are of course out of our control, but that does not mean they should dictate to us how we need to respond. We are not called to be reactors, we are called to change and shift the environment. This can be hard if we cannot even see what the environment looks like when our glasses are clouded. Instead of others telling us what pair of glasses we should wear, or allowing our environment to steam up the lenses, lets choose to look through His perspective. What He sees is not what man sees. Lets put on His glasses. I guarantee you were born for that pair. It may not seem at first, they may take some time getting used to, but in the long run you will have impacted more people and changed several places. Lets choice today to be world changers and not let our environment set the standard on how we should live or see.
Check out my previous post, ‘Embrace Yourself, Here WE GO!’ for more on this topic.
#yourchoice #youreyes #Hisperspective #yougotthis #letschangetheworldtogether
Everyday we are flooded with emotions. Some make us feel gross and disgusted, others make us feel sad, lonely, and depressed, others make us furious while make us happy, joyful, and content. Sometimes we just go through life feeling every emotion and riding the rollercoaster of our lives. However, at the end of the day we have a choice to choose to feel what we feel. Some of us go through life allowing our emotions to control us and our thoughts and decisions. Let me encourage you and say, “Get off the roller coaster!”
If you are anything like me, you love an occasional rush that roller coasters give you. The ups and downs, the loops, corkscrews, and sharp turns give us the crazy illusion that we are flying and out of control. However, we are securely strapped in and even before we get in line for this crazy ride we are fronted with a choice. Before you even get to the front of the line, you can see the course outlined in front of you with all of its wild intentions. You can hear the screaming of terror and excitement rush overhead as you cross underneath the track. As you stand their looking at the next crazy ride, you have a choice to decide to get in line and then at the front – to board it. This is the same with our emotions. We have a choice at the beginning of the day to allow our emotions to control us or not. Sometimes life is crazy and you cannot help but get on the crazy ride but in the end, or the start of the day I should say, you have a choice to allow yourself to get on that ride or not. Do not get me wrong, emotions are very important and should not be thrown away deep into ourselves. They are valuable to experiencing life and ministering to others around us, but do not become a victim to their power. Emotions are meant to aid us and encourage us, not bring us flying through life feeling like your falling. So yes, you can say no to those bad emotions and choose to be happy. Your circumstance may outline a crazy course but you have a choice to get on that ride or not. Instead choose joy! Choose every day to be happy and to spread that joy to everyone you meet. We all love those times we run into someone whether at the store or a restaurant that is happy and makes your day smile. Well, I am sure they faced the exact same decision you have. Their life is probably not always glowing but they decided to not let their circumstances choose their fate, rather they choose for themselves what they wanted.
It is time for you to choose, you can hear the load rush overhead, will you decide to allow joy to fill you to overflow or will you get on the ride??
#choosejoy #emotionsdon’tcontrolyou #yougotthis
With the season of love staring at us in the face, I cannot help but talk about it. Love is a beautiful thing. It can make us feel all gooey inside. Sometimes it makes us feel like we are on top of the world and invincible, while other times it can make us look deep in ourselves and help us through some tough times. Love is a strange thing. Some call it an emotion. Most of us use it as a greeting. Others use it as a deciding factor for big decisions. Love comes and goes and we never still seem to understand it. We enter into relationships because we are swept away by love, but then the moment love is gone the relationship is over. If you were to ask those in a long relationship, maybe 30+ years, “what is love?” I am sure they would tell you something like, “It is the small things. Choosing to be there even when I did not want to….” In other words, it is not easy or fleeting, rather it is commitment. Love is a CHOICE! You have to choose to love somebody. You must choose to love someone every day.People that are hurt or angry never act out of who they are. You decide in each moment to extend love to every person in your life. Whether it is your family or even your coworkers. Of course people do things we do not like, or that hurt us, but let me share some truth on that. People that are hurt or angry never act out of who they are. They are reacting instead of acting. We have all been there, said things we regret or said something out of anger because we are reacting to a situation. Basically, we have allowed the situations around us to determine how we act instead of rising above the situation and take our behavior into our own hands. So it is time to choose connection, not disagreement. Does it get hard at times? Absolutely! Love is a commitment, a constant decision, a vow if you will. The only way to shift our environment around us is to love it. When someone is hurting, he or she needs love. Our environment around us is hurting, so we cannot afford to do anything else but love. Let us love together and make the world a better place. Decide today to love on your family, friends, and community.
I pray this season of love reminds you how powerful you are and that you hold the key to change you and your environment. The key of Love!
#chooselove #youcandoit #changetheworldthroughlove